We often know way more than we think we do. We’re often way stronger than we realize. We often don’t recognize something for what it is even when it’s staring us in the face.
We sound a bit slow to learn, don’t we? But allow me to interpret in a more positive perspective….we are smart. We are intelligent and have the capacity to forgive and the skill of problem-solving. So why, WHY, does it take us so damn long sometimes to figure things out or get our shit together?
For me, it’s like my brain is filled in with molasses every time I have to do math to give someone change. The calculation takes a while for me to do in my head and I could do it much faster if I wrote it down but I fear that would make me seem less smart. And then that anxiety builds which makes the calculation solving process even more delayed. It feels excruciating.
For me, it took 6 years to figure out how to interact with an old flame. It was up and down and all around….if our relationship was a roller-coaster, it would be the frikin King-da-ka. Or Sidewinder. Either way, a big mess of emotions. And I was not so quick to sort them out and discover a healthy relationship with that individual.
There are so many things that prevent us from DOING. From sorting, solving, planning. Effectively.
This happens in tango all the time. Anxiety, panic, the need to impress, nervousness, frustration, stress, self-consciousness, and general insecurity in the learning process are all things that hold us back from learning something new with a positive attitude (and kindness and compassion). These things are like walls, borders, limitations that block our way. And by golly, it’s irritating and taxing and drives us batty!
So how can we not only encourage the learning process in a healthy, positive way but also never stop or hinder it even when these thoughts and feelings and road blocks prevent us from going?
Still figuring this one out. But I suspect that it is different for each person. So…take some time and reflect. And PLEASE share your thoughts and enlighten this little tango girl, too!